What happens for undeserved accusations. Lessons from idiotic situations

Correctly respond to false accusations in our direction.

Due to various circumstances, we are periodically subjected to verbal attacks.
When the accusations are unexpected, we feel embarrassed, we are not protected, and therefore we panic, and we can no longer control our behavior as we would do it in a calm state.
And panic appears in us due to the fact that we know little about human psychology, we know little about the world.
We often accept other people's rules of the game without knowing them. As they say, if a person agreed to play by the rules that he does not know, he is a sucker.
The first thing to do in a situation where you hear false accusations against you is to maintain composure and inner peace. You are innocent - that's the main thing. Everything else is trifles.
Second, one cannot resist the accuser by acting chaotically. You need to consider every word you say. Wrong words can do you great harm.
And then you need to act based on the severity of the charges, the strength of psychological pressure, the damage that may be inflicted on you, the responsibility that you will have to bear, etc.
If a person wants to learn some information from you, then you can respond adequately - give the person what he wants to know.
If a person is annoyed and deliberately suppresses your personality, then you can react in the same way.
You need to defend yourself, but the way to repel the psychological attack (pressure) is chosen each time based on the specific situation.
As the best option - humor, irony, sarcasm, if you have the appropriate mood and energy. If you yourself are currently in a difficult situation or upset (for example, someone in the family is sick), then you will not “pull” this method. You can be ironic when you yourself are in a cheerful mood.
By the way, you can fight back with words spoken in a different intonation. This method also works.

In any case, a psychological attack on you is just an episode in your life, moreover, an interesting and incomprehensible life. If you take a philosophical approach to this issue, then it will be very simple to cope with your condition. If you are in a difficult situation, and you cannot repel verbal attacks now, then think about whether it is worth spending your health and strength on people who behave impolitely and aggressively. Connect with others who behave differently.
Of course, it is better to put a person in his place, but if this does not work out yet, do not worry. Over time, all situations resolve themselves.
Methods " best protection- attack, "break the situation", "hold the position", "do not make excuses", "do not bend" also work, but you need to understand well what kind of person is in front of you. Sometimes, gestalt is the best way to resolve the situation peacefully.

Geronda, when I am treated unfairly, my heart hardens.
- So that it does not harden, never think either about the guilt of the one who treats you unjustly, or about how great his guilt is, but rather think about how guilty you yourself are. Look: when people quarrel, each of them claims that he is right. Therefore, people are in constant disagreement. For example, two people go to the police and, pointing at each other, vying with each other say: “He beat me.” However, neither of them talks about how much the other got from him! Where is everyone else going to court against his offender?

If we thought that the greatest injustice of all was brought upon Himself by Christ, then we would accept injustice with joy. Being God, He, through much love, descended to earth and for nine months imprisoned Himself in the womb of the Most Holy Theotokos. Then for thirty years He lived in obscurity, from fifteen to thirty he worked for the Jews as a carpenter. Do you know what the tools were back then? In those days, they used wooden saws with wooden teeth. They gave him all sorts of boards and said: “Do one thing, do another ...” But what was it like to plan these boards? Try to cut with those clumsy pieces of iron that were then used instead of planes! Do you know what hard work it was? And after that - three years of suffering. For the sake of preaching, He went barefoot all [their land] far and wide. He healed the sick, opened the eyes of the blind with clay, and they all demanded signs from Him. He cast out demons from the possessed, and ungrateful people called Himself possessed. There were so many prophecies and predictions about Him, He performed so many miracles, but despite all this, in the end He was subjected to mockery and handed over to Death on the Cross.
Therefore, those who suffer injustice are the most beloved children of God. After all, enduring injustice, these people carry in their hearts the victim of injustice Christ. In exile or in prison, they rejoice as if they were in Paradise, for Paradise is where Christ is.
- Geronda, can a person's burden be unbearable for him?

God does not allow the burden to exceed our strength. These are unreasonable people who place an unbearable burden on the shoulders of others. Often the Good God allows good people to pass through the hands of evil ones so that they collect heavenly reward.

- Geronda, does discontent have a connection with ingratitude?

Yes. It can also be this: others [making a remark to a person] care about his welfare, but he does not understand this, feels unjustly offended and expresses dissatisfaction. If such a person does not take care of himself, he may well believe that he is being treated unfairly even when he commits some kind of oversight and is asked to be more attentive.
In this way, he can even reach shamelessness. For example, a nun, while spraying olive trees, pours too much pesticide into the solution and saps the leaves on the trees. They make a remark to her, and instead of realizing her mistake and saying: “Forgive and bless,” she feels unfairly offended and cries. They're treating me unfairly, she thinks. - If the locusts ate the leaves on the trees, they would not say a word! A. Now, when I spoiled them, they raised such a cry! Oh, my Christ, only You understand me. And let's cry! Such a nun can even experience joy, thinking about retribution for the “injustice” she has endured, and thank Christ for it! This state of affairs is a big mistake.

The Joy of Accepting Injustice

- Geronda, is the joy that I feel when they scold me for some of my faults pure?
- Look, without grumbling, but with joy and the words: “Glory to You, God, that’s what I need!” - accepting scolding for perfect missteps, you will have half the joy. But if you are scolded undeservedly, without fault on your part, and you accept the reprimand with a good intention, then your joy will be complete. I do not urge you to ask for injustice yourself, because in this case the Tangalashka will cast you into pride, but I urge you to accept injustice when it comes by itself, and rejoice in it.
There are four stages of attitude towards injustice. For example, someone beats you unfairly. If you are on the first step, then give him back. If you are on the second, then you feel very embarrassed in yourself, but you restrain yourself and say nothing. At the third stage, you are no longer embarrassed, but at the fourth stage you feel great joy and greatly rejoice in your soul. If a person is unfairly accused of something, then, having proved that these accusations are untenable, he rehabilitates himself and receives satisfaction. In this case, he experiences worldly joy. However, treating injustice spiritually, with a good intention and not caring about proving his innocence, he experiences spiritual joy. That is, in this case he has divine consolation in himself and the glorification of God becomes his state. Do you know what joy a person’s soul feels if he is unfairly offended and he does not justify himself, seeking to be told “well done” or “sorry”? And the joy that such a soul experiences now, enduring injustice, is greater than the joy that it would experience if it managed to justify itself. Those who reach this state are willing to thank their offender both for the joy he gave them in earthly life and for the joy he provided for them in eternity. How different is the spiritual from the worldly!

In spiritual life there is a different system of measurements. If you leave some ugly or worthless thing for yourself, then you feel great. If you give it to someone else, you feel bad. If you [resignedly] accept injustice and justify your neighbor, then in your heart you accept the many times unjustified Christ. Then, according to the existing [spiritual] law, Christ "extends the lease" of your heart. He remains in it and fills you with peace and joy. Oh, my darlings, try it after the expiration of the previous period. experience this joy yourself! Learn to rejoice not in that worldly joy, but in this spiritual one. When you learn this, you will have Easter every day.

There is no greater joy than that which one experiences in accepting injustice. Oh, that all men would do me wrong. I tell you with all sincerity: I experienced the sweetest spiritual joy in the midst of injustice. Do you know how happy I am when someone calls me deceived? “Glory to You, God,” I say, “because for these words I will receive a reward. But if they call me a saint, then I will be in debt.” There is no sweeter thing in the world than the injustice [you accept]!

One morning someone knocked on the iron riveter near the gate of my cell. It was still too early to receive visitors. I looked out the window and saw a young man with an enlightened face. I realized that since the Grace of God “gives him away” like that, it means that he experienced something spiritual from his own experience. Therefore, although I had urgent matters, I left them, opened the door for him, led him into the cell, brought him water and, seeing that something spiritual was hidden in him, carefully began to ask about his life. "What do you do, well done?" I asked him. “What is there, father, work,” he replied. Because I grew up in prison. I am now twenty-six years old and most I spent my life there." “What did you do that ended up in jail?” I asked, and he opened his heart to me. “From childhood,” he began his story, “it was very painful for me to see unfortunate people. I knew by name all those who suffer and are in need, not only in our parish, but also in others. Our parish priest and the headman of the parish kept collecting and collecting money, spending it on the construction of various buildings, halls, on the improvement of the temple, and the like, while poor, needy families remained completely useless. I do not presume to judge whether there was a real need for all these buildings, but simply say that I saw many destitute. Well, that's when I began to secretly take the money collected for donations. I did not take everything, but as much as was necessary. With stolen money he bought food, various [necessary] things and left it under the doors of the poor.
Immediately after that, not wanting an innocent person to be caught on suspicion of theft, I went to the police and said: “I stole money from the church and spent it.” Didn't say anything more. They beat me, called me “punks” and “thief”, but I kept silent. Then they were put in jail. This went on for several years. There are thirty thousand inhabitants in our city, they all heard about me and did not call me anything other than “punks” and “thief”. And I was silent and felt joy. I once spent three whole years in prison. Sometimes I was imprisoned on mere suspicion of theft - without fault on my part, and when the real criminal was detained, I was released. And if the culprit of a crime that I did not commit was not found, I served in prison the entire term due to this thief. Therefore, my father, I told you that I spent most of my life in prisons.
After listening carefully to his story, I said: “Here's the thing, boy. Even though everything you told me seems, at first glance, good, but in fact there is nothing good in it. Don't do that again. I'll give you some advice. Will you take my advice?" “I will, father,” he replied. "From my hometown You need to leave, I said. - Go to a place where you are not known - to a city such and such. I will see to it that you meet good people there. Start working and help the destitute as much as you can by sharing your last piece of bread with them, because it has a greater price [than what you have done so far]. But even if a person has nothing to give to a beggar and his heart hurts from this, then he gives him alms higher order. He gives him alms with the blood of his heart. After all, if a person gives alms from what he has, then at the same time he experiences joy, but if he has nothing to give, then he feels pain in his heart.
After listening to me, the young man promised to listen to my advice and left in a joyful state of mind. Seven months passed. One day I received a letter from Korydallu Prison. Opening the envelope, I read the following: “My father, of course, you will be surprised that after so many advices and promises made to you, I am writing to you again from prison. But know that this time I am serving a sentence that I have already served before. There was some kind of judicial error. Thank God that there is no justice among people: after all, if it existed, it would be injustice towards spiritual people, who would then lose their heavenly reward.
After reading the last words, I was amazed at this young man who took up the spiritual life so ardently and so deeply comprehended the deepest meaning of life in general. Thief for Christ! He had Christ in him. He could not contain himself from the joy he experienced. He experienced divine folly, festive joy!

- Geronda, did this joy come from the fact that people covered him with shame?
- This joy came from the fact that he endured injustice. He was a worldly person - he did not read either the Lives of the Saints or the writings of the Holy Fathers, and, despite the fact that he was undeservedly beaten, they put him in prison, despite the fact that in the city he was considered a punk, a scoundrel and a thief, despite the fact that that he was shamed and shamed - in spite of all this, he did not justify himself and treated everything so spiritually! The young man - a cared not about how to restore his reputation, but about how to help others. Big, real thieves are often not jailed even once, and this unfortunate man was jailed twice for the same theft. And how many times he was imprisoned innocently - until the real criminal was found! However, the joy that he experienced was not experienced even by all the inhabitants of that city - put together. Thirty thousand of their joys could not outweigh one such joy as his.
That is why I say that a spiritual person has no sorrows. When love multiplies in a person and his heart is scorched by divine zeal, then sorrow can no longer find a place in him. People cause such a person pain and suffering, but they are overcome by his great love for Christ.

For example, pour an imaginary bucket on the opponent's head ice water Or dump a trash can on it. In any case, each of these methods allows you to be distracted and take accusations and attacks less painfully. 4 Take the floor. This should be done only when the interlocutor has finished his tirade. In no case do not make excuses, starting your speech with the phrases “You misunderstood ...”, “It was not me ...”, etc. If you really made a mistake, then do not be afraid to openly admit your mistake. But of course, you shouldn't take someone else's blame on yourself. 5 Avoid responding to insults in kind. If your opponent can't calm down and move on to a constructive conversation, refuse to continue the conversation in a similar tone and promise to talk later. 6 However, such tactics can not always be afforded.

How to respond to false accusations in your direction?

Table of contents:

• What accusations are always unfounded?
• Article 246 of the Criminal Procedure Code of the Russian Federation
• Private Prosecution Cases
• How to respond to false accusations in your direction?
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What accusations are always unfounded? You can say a lot and blame a lot, but you must also be able to confirm your words with facts, that is, evidence. Without facts and evidence, the one who accuses will be ridiculous in the eyes of society and look like a clown.

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If a person, say, killed someone, then there should be his prints at the scene of the murder. Well, or at least the witnesses of it. And then such evidence can be accepted as circumstantial.

Unfounded accusation article

If you object and make excuses, then this threatens to turn into a scandal, a negative, which will only increase the misunderstanding between you and the dissatisfaction of both parties. After the conversation, deal with overwhelming emotions.

Cases of private prosecution In cases of private prosecution, we offer the following services: The Criminal Code of the Russian Federation are considered criminal cases of private prosecution. are initiated only at the request of the victim, his legal representative, with the exception of cases when the person against whom the crime was committed, due to a dependent or helpless state or for other reasons, cannot protect his rights and legitimate interests. How to properly respond to false accusations to your side? In any case, a psychological attack on you is just an episode in your life, moreover, an interesting and incomprehensible life.

How to defend yourself against accusations

You can be ironic when you yourself are in a cheerful mood. By the way, you can fight back with words spoken in a different intonation. This method also works. In any case, a psychological attack on you is just an episode in your life, moreover, an interesting and incomprehensible life.

If you take a philosophical approach to this issue, then it will be very simple to cope with your condition. If you are in a difficult situation, and you cannot repel verbal attacks now, then think about whether it is worth spending your health and strength on people who behave impolitely and aggressively.
Communicate with others who behave differently. Of course, it is better to put a person in his place, but if this does not work out yet, do not worry.

How to respond to false accusations from Eckhart Tolle

The more options, the more difficult. That's why the easiest way - butt slamming - is sometimes the most effective. It would seem.) I strongly advise - Henry Kuttner, "Son of the Big Hairy".

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How to behave when you are accused, but you are not to blame?

It is enough to confidently, looking into your eyes, declare your innocence, and let the accusers, knowing you, decide for themselves whether to believe you or not. Or look for hard evidence. Another way of defending against accusations, the most commonly used one, is “accusation is the best defense”.

This is when we start screaming in response, remembering the old mistakes and flaws of the current accusers. Not a very effective way, because by and large it leads to an ordinary scandal, during which you can say a lot of unnecessary things.

If other people's unfounded accusations hurt you very much, try to quickly forget your offense. Although it is believed that during a quarrel we say everything we think, this is not entirely true.

Often we just want to offend a person and deliberately “pour salt into the wounds”, and then we ourselves experience it. It is very important to understand this, forgive and not be offended. And try not to blame others in vain.
So that they don't get offended.

How to respond to accusations

We all have to become a target from time to time, into which other people's grievances and accusations fly like darts. We are regularly accused of callousness, selfishness, inattention, carelessness, rudeness.
Yes, hardly anything. Just when a person is in a bad mood, he blames everyone around. But what if "around" - only you. How to respond to accusations? First, the accusations may be fair. Admit it and repent. “Yes, I was wrong. Yes, I made a mistake, it's my fault." It's hard to say, but useful. In the end, the punitive speech aims to direct you to the true path, and if you are already on it, then this pathetic speech seems to lose its meaning.

But do not think that after your words the accuser will immediately fall silent. No, it is vital for those who have stepped on the path of accusations to let off steam.

So get ready to listen repentantly and nod.

If the answer is on the surface, for example, the boss at work scolded, and the evil breaks down on you, then inform the “prosecutor” about this. A sane person himself knows (and in any case guesses) about the true causes of his irritability, and when he hears them from you, he will be ashamed.

Maybe upset. But he will stop slandering you. If there is no answer on the surface, then invite the person to calmly tell you about their troubles, because you know that his accusations are just a dump of negative emotions.

Another option is when you are accused of some unseemly act that you did not commit. If you have solid evidence of your innocence, provide it and end the conversation there.

If there is no weighty evidence, then you should not twitch nervously and tear your hair out: “Do you believe me or not!?” .

How to respond to false accusations in your direction

Instruction 1 Do not interrupt your opponent. Silently listen to all his claims, without trying to insert a word. Most likely, the accuser expects a feedback from you: emotions, attempts to justify yourself and defend your point of view. However, you should not maintain a given tone of communication and switch to raised tones. Listen calmly to all claims, even if they are completely unfounded. 2 Use your imagination to keep your cool. Standing under a hail of accusations is not so easy, let your own imagination help you. There are many popular methods to regain self-confidence and repel the mental attack of the enemy. For example, imagine that there is a thick glass wall between you: the words of your opponent beat against it and fly back. Try to detail the barrier as much as possible, think over its color, texture. 3 You can use less humane stories.
And then don't forget to correct your mistake. Listen to criticism. If you are regularly accused of the same thing, it is probably not without reason. So, you need to change something in yourself. Or at least try to correct some personal qualities. Each person, no doubt, is individual, but it is still necessary to adapt to the requirements of others.

So that there is no resentment on their part. Secondly, the accusations may be unfair. When you just got hit by a hot hand. On the one hand, why argue if you are not guilty of anything, why make excuses? On the other hand, your patronizing silence (they say, I am above this) can act like a red rag on a bull.

Therefore, it is not worth accepting vain accusations. Try to figure out what really pissed off your accuser so much.

We all make mistakes at work. However, there are people who love to put their blame on others. To avoid an unfair accusation, you should protect yourself as much as possible. Start by creating documentary evidence where you will keep records and record working decisions. Then set out to build a solid reputation for being responsive and trustworthy. If you really made a mistake for which you are being criticized, acknowledge your responsibility for what happened. If the accusations are unfounded, make an appointment with your boss and explain what really happened.

Steps

Create Documentary Evidence

Communicate through Email. It is difficult to prove what was said in person or over the phone. However, it's much easier to provide the contents of an email: just print out the email. Communicate with everyone via email whenever possible.

Require a signature if you deliver something. Did you personally deliver anything or did you send it by courier to another department? Or sent a letter to the client by regular mail? If so, always require the recipient's signature. For example, you can send a registered letter with acknowledgment of receipt.

Ask questions to your manager. If you don't know how to proceed, ask someone in a higher position to make a decision. If the decision turns out to be wrong, it will be his fault. Send an email with your question and keep a copy of the answer.

• Perhaps you don't want to ask questions because you want to look like you know everything. However, you need to do something right or else you will really be at fault.
• Don't ask the question twice. As soon as the manager explains to you how to complete the task correctly, write it down so you don't forget. If you keep asking questions, you will look incompetent.

1. Educate customers about the risks behind the solution. Sometimes you may be blamed for a client's business decision not producing the expected results. Despite the fact that the client made his own choice, he will claim that you did not tell him about the risks. Always ensure that people make an informed decision by carefully explaining all possible dangers.

   • Also, ask the client to sign a form stating that they have been informed of the risks. List the most significant risks on this form.
   • Save the signed form in case the client claims later that you didn't warn them of the dangers.

   Build a strong reputation

   1. Keep a positive attitude. You can resist false accusations if you have a good reputation in the eyes of your boss and most of your colleagues. Start building your reputation by maintaining a positive attitude. Smile and say "Good morning" or "Hello" to everyone you meet.

      Help selectively. It depends on your workplace. Most people will appreciate an extra pair of hands if they are swamped with work. However, do not help too much, otherwise it will give the impression that you have nothing to do.

      • Also pay attention to whether a colleague is grateful to you for what you have done. If not, stop helping this person.
      • On the other hand, if he notes your merits, you can help him in the future. This person appreciates your help and does not see you as a threat.

   2. Keep promises. If you tell a colleague that you will do something, remember to keep the promise. Leave all excuses at home and make sure you keep your commitments. Be consistent - this will increase your credibility in the eyes of other people.

      Admit your mistakes. Admitting your mistakes honestly will help you gain trust. People who constantly shirk responsibility start to look like liars. Better confess. Say "I'm sorry" and explain the following:

      • You understand the gravity of the mistake. For example: “I am aware that this mistake could cost us a client.”
      • You know how it happened. For example: “I was preparing parcels to send, and then Irina called, and I got distracted.”
      • You will definitely take steps to prevent this from happening again: “In order not to repeat this mistake in the future, I will redirect calls to voice mail while the packages are being prepared for shipment.”

   3. Stay professional online. If you have accounts in in social networks, make sure they characterize you positively. Remove controversial or offensive content from your social media pages (Twitter, VKontakte, YouTube and any others). Consider making personal accounts private.

   Deal with accusations at work

   1. Calmly listen to the accusation. No one likes to be blamed for mistakes at work. When your boss calls you into his office, your heart may race. Try to relax as much as possible. Sit comfortably and take a deep breath.

      • Remain calm to hear the essence of the accusation. Try writing down what your boss said you did wrong. You may not be able to accurately reproduce what was said when you leave your boss's office, so you need to take good notes.
      • Remember that you should not immediately get into a defensive position. Also, the boss may be too angry to really hear you. If you don't get fired, go back to yours workplace and collect your thoughts.
      • If you are not guilty of anything, calmly say: “I did not do this.” The boss may not hear you, but you need to say it.

   2. Think you may have contributed to the development of this problem."Accused" is a nasty word. It assumes that only one person is responsible when things go wrong. However, many people may have contributed to the creation of this problem. Objectively assess whether you are responsible for this in any way.

      • If so, consider what you could do differently. If you admit a mistake, you need to explain how it happened and how you can fix it.
      • However, don't put the blame on someone else, unless you have documented evidence that the person made a mistake.
   3. One of the reasons why you should build good relationships with colleagues is precisely these moments when you are accused of what you did not do. Talk to your colleagues and ask if they can speak to your boss on your behalf.
   4. Start the meeting by briefly describing the nature of the allegations. Then move on to your version of what happened.
   5. You can say, "I was too excited to tell you this yesterday, but now that I've had time to think, I want to tell you what really happened."
   6. Back up your words with documents. You can say, “See, here I have an email from accounting. Alina said that there were still 80,000 rubles in the account. That's why I spent the money."

In fact, the advice on how to behave correctly when you are accused, but you are not to blame, is very simple. So, if you are accused of something that you did not do, first decide whether they are doing it with malicious intent, or if people really made a mistake. If the blame is not just wrong, then you need to keep in mind that it is convenient for someone to make you guilty. How to proceed in this case? First, you need to find out who is to blame for what happened. Only with indisputable evidence will you be able to confront the accusers. Most likely, by blaming someone who is not guilty, a person wants to defend himself or specifically blame someone. In fact, the severity of such an accusation is very different. This can be done by jealous rivals who want to take your loved one away from you, envious employees who are annoyed that the boss loves you more than others, or competitors who need you to go broke. But, in any case, people begin to behave this way, setting your moral or material destruction as the goal. How to protect yourself from them and behave correctly in such a situation?

Firstly, there should always be reliable people next to you who can support and protect you in any situation. But, you must be really sure that these people will never betray you and will not fight on two fronts. If they try to set you up and do it for more than one day, then one of your close friends could try, so to speak, “get into enemy territory” and find out why they want to set you up, and also get some proof. But, even if it is impossible to do this, close people should always confirm your words, of course, if they are true. You should not lie with a whole crowd, because later, when everything is revealed, they will not believe not only you, but also your friends.

Often, only words can be used in an accusation. And here, it is very important to be able to respond correctly to words. First, do not shout and start accusing this person of slander. In fact, that's all he wants. If a person is driven to hysteria, he ceases to adequately think and argue his words. Therefore, when you are accused, you should not immediately get angry, call the person names and shout that you have been slandered. Instead, it is best to listen very carefully. In a lie there are always places "sewn with white thread." If you notice them in time, then you can justify yourself with dignity. Therefore, in no case do not interrupt your accuser. Listen to it until the end, and only then begin to draw any conclusions. If you know that he definitely cannot have any physical evidence to support your accusation, then you can very easily and simply prove that you are not guilty of anything. But, for this you need to stay very calm and cold. If you start to get angry, shy, lower your eyes and get nervous, people get the impression that you are doing this because you know about your guilt and now you are trying to somehow hide it, but nothing comes of it. Therefore, in no case do not allow yourself to be nervous. Even if you just want to strangle the offender with your bare hands, never dare to show it. If a person sees that he has brought someone out of balance, he will definitely take advantage of this. Therefore, you must not allow such a thing.

Also, never make excuses. When a person begins to excitedly say that he is not like that and could not do anything like that, then his words are also not perceived as something real and truthful. In situations where you are purposefully accused, you need to use only arguments and hard facts. As mentioned earlier, try to identify the weak points in the accusation and refute them. You can do this in different ways: putting forward your version, asking questions, or in some other way. Simply, you need to look at the situation, and, in no case, do not give vent to emotions. Remember that the accuser expects any reaction from you, but not calmness and complete self-confidence and that you are right. Such behavior will definitely confuse him. If you also start to expose, the person is already completely lost and forgets about all the arguments that he had before. Therefore, always remember that the hardest thing to blame is a person who knows that he is right, is not afraid of the accuser and does not allow himself to lose his composure.

If you were not accused on purpose, then it is much easier to sort out the situation. In this case, people are much more inclined to listen to you and find the truth. But, in this case, it is not worth making excuses. Simply, you need to explain the situation, prove why exactly you could not do this and, if necessary, find evidence that will confirm your innocence in this or that case. Most likely, they will give you time to find a way to justify yourself and they will adequately assess the situation, and not look for an opportunity to confirm your guilt.

In fact, in the life of every person there are times when he is accused of something he did not do. You shouldn't take it to heart. All people tend to make mistakes and ill-wishers also have everyone. If no one hates you, you need to think about whether you live right. After all, only gray and uninteresting people do not cause emotions. Therefore, such stories and accusations should not be taken as a reason to honor yourself a bad person, but as proof that you can evoke such strong emotions in your enemies, therefore, you really live, and do not exist.